The Multi-Generational Family

Within seconds of waking up this morning, before my eyes had fully focused in the gloom, I was hit with yet another epiphany.

All of my life I’ve dreamed of what it would be like to have a multi-generational family under one roof, and now I have it.

And the reality is nothing like I imagined it.

As a child, I grew up missing my grandfathers. One died months before I was born and the other died when I was just six. I remember visiting my paternal grandfather’s grave with my grandmother. We brought plastic flowers and put them there near the simple plaque that rested on the ground. I cried for the man I had never met. Everyone told me that he was so looking forward to meeting me, that he would have loved me.

By that time, I was seven, and had recently lost my maternal grandfather, who I had only a few happy memories of visiting. A big man who smelled of pipe tobacco and gave me bone-cracking hugs, he had died soon after we moved far away, to Flagstaff, Arizona.

I felt robbed. What had I done to earn such misfortune? Not only were my grandfathers gone, but my great-grandparents were all long dead as well. I envied those who had multiple generations in their lives. I read about them in books, imagined what it would be like to grow up in a house with parents, grandparents, and siblings.

My reality was far different. There was me and there was my dad. Or sometimes, my mom. My parents had divorced a few months before my mom’s dad had died and we were 1,000 miles from our nearest relatives, nearly all of them in Missouri. It was a solitary existence, one that would haunt me for decades.

That last sentence sounded rather melodramatic, but it is the truth. In some ways, I feel as if I have been battling loneliness all of my life. Perhaps it is why I started a family at the age of 18. I wanted to live my life surrounded by family – and if I had to make it happen by myself then so be it.

And just as I dreamed of having children, I dreamed also of the “good old days” when aging parents were taken care of, not in this new normal of nursing homes and retirement communities, but at home, with their families, where they belonged.

I saw worth in it. I imagined what my grandfathers could have taught me. The stories they could have told me, the things that they had seen. I dreamed of what it could have been like for me, surrounded by love, not alone in apartments and houses for hours on end, with books and television my only companions.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be.”

And this morning I realized that I have continued to work towards that goal, that of the multi-generational family, all of my life. I have always seen its worth.

Dream and reality aren’t the same, though. Reality is far more messy.

Reality is that I can count the bones on my father’s body as I bathe him. They are better now, not so obvious now that he has gained ten pounds under my care. His clothes fit better, his attention span lasts longer, and he is improving.

Reality is that my eldest daughter wants nothing to do with him. NOTHING. He has asked, and I have explained, as best as I could, that their relationship is their own to fix, and not something I will involve myself in.

Reality is that we have pooled our resources and that, for however long this lasts, it benefits all involved. I am home more, the house runs relatively smoothly and is cleaner and more meals are fixed here. We are not suffering, and there are financial and emotional rewards to this new paradigm.

It also means that when my dad blew his whistle to call me last night, waking me up from sleep, it was to ask for band-aids to be put all over his feet as a “preventative measure” for the diabetic neuropathy he continues to deny he has. I said “no” by the way and grumpily told him to please refrain from waking me up with weird fixes for known issues.

It means learning things that I never knew, or don’t remember. Hearing the stories for the first time as he shares his wealth of knowledge and experiences gained over the past seventy years.

Reality is having to endure for the 126th time, the “novel” business idea (i.e. scheme for how to use other people’s money) to fund his unrealistic dreams for when he “returns to Panama and builds that Queen Anne.”

It means involving him in Em’s homeschooling. “Read to him from your Time Life for Kids series,” I say. She does, and he listens and then shares a story with her. She remains lukewarm towards him, but I hope that will change, that he will tell her some funny stories and that she will find worth and interest in him.

Reality is that some days he loves my cooking and other times he doesn’t. “These aren’t REAL tacos,” he says, frowning at the crunchy taco shell I bought at Aldi’s. “Someday I’ll show you what REAL tacos are like.” I say nothing some days, other times I snap back at him.

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It means that there is another adult to talk to and spend time with each day. But someone who needs me, too, which has its moments of nice. I’m busy showing him all of the interesting series on Netflix as well – Sense8, Daredevil, Jessica Jones, and more. We have established a routine of sorts.

Reality is that he can be petulant, demanding, imperious and a general asshole.

Yes, I just called my dad an asshole. And he is. Just as he can be sweet and kind and thoughtful.

He’s a human being, after all, and we all have a little (or lot) of asshole in us.

The end result of all of this? Two months ago (plus one day), I boarded a plane to Panama City, Panama. I had no idea what was going to happen or how radically my life would change. And for all of the positives, there are negatives. For all of the ups, there are downs. But one lone fact remains.

I dreamed of a life with a multi-generational family. I wanted it, desperately. That lonely little girl, with hours and hours and HOURS of just tv and books and the occasional interactions with children she did not understand or could not relate to, grew up. And she got that life she dreamed of, with all of the twists and turns she couldn’t even conceptualize of at the time.

She got her wish. It might not be in the neat little package she imagined. It might have manifested with puke in the sink and shit on the floor. Tears, laughter, mad as hell moments, and a lot of repeated “to the LEFT!” as a walker scrapes paint off of a door older than either of them. It may be full of interrupted sleep, multiple doctor visits and an army of home health nurses. It might mean that your relationship with your eldest is strained and silent and painful and the break she and you both have taken feels like abandonment. It might mean that your youngest still has a way to go before she sees the old man in the front parlor as anything more than a pain in the ass she does not understand.

But like Eleanor said, “Life is what you make it.”

And overall? Life is good.

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Bathtub Epiphanies

All it took was lukewarm water to cement the idea in my head.

Well, that and a stolen wheelbarrow.

I’ll explain.

On Saturday, the weather was fantastic, and I was eager to get back out in the yard and get to work. I had already raked most of the leaves from the front and east side yard. I had disposed of trash, mounded the leaves into a nice hump at the base of our curved front porch, and even stomped them down. They will create a lovely nitrogen-rich base for planting after I add some soil to the top of them, put in the plants, and then mulch on top.

That was Thursday’s work.

On Saturday I was determined to continue clear dead brush, fallen branches from the trees, and any additional leaves. The sticks and brush would go in the burn pile, the leaves into the garden for additional mulch.

The wheelbarrow, however, was nowhere to be found.

This is a direct result of our trusting natures. We assume that folks will not come onto our property and steal from us. For the most part, that’s true. We have honestly had very good luck with that, despite there being no fence (other than the one enclosing the dog yard).

And we have put off putting a fence in because we did not own a contiguous line of property until November. Now we can enclose it, and started to work on the fence late last year, just in time for the cold weather to set in.

As I settled into the bathtub, the hot water fully open and the cold water fully closed, the water was warm enough, for a while. By the time the tub was filled, it was only lukewarm water coming from the tap.

Our water heater is from 1983 and has been on a death watch for the past four years.

This, combined with the theft of our wheelbarrow, made me realize that we needed to rearrange our priorities this year. Instead of focusing on The Cottage, we need to address some real issues here at our house. Here is the list I came up with:

  • Finish installing back fence
  • Order storm doors and have them installed
  • Buy new water heater
  • Finish tuckpointing foundation inside and outside (get it DONE this year!)
  • Install front fence and enclose entire property (put locks on all of the gates)
  • Replace attic stair treads
  • Take down Thing 3 (a cottonwood that causes Dave and the kiddo no end of allergy misery each year), trim the old tree nearest to The Cottage, and remove the maple inside of the dog yard (this tree is too close to the house, has a very shallow root system and could seriously damage the house if it were felled in a storm.

The Cottage needs a few more fixes to be stabilized, though. Those include:

  • Install burglar alarm (this weekend)
  • Back wall siding (contract this out)
  • Fix hole on west side (contract this out)
  • Re-attach drain pipe (this weekend)
  • Clear front yard (I’ll handle during the week)
  • Cut down tree (contract this out)
  • Clear brush in back, along with tarps, spread grass seed (2/25 & 2/26)
  • Re-install steps to back door (2/25 & 2/26)
  • Plant hill with more perennials (I’ll handle during this week)

The Cottage, once it has these fixes, will be stable. It has a new roof, new windows, and it will be protected from any possible break-ins until we can resume work on it next year. We are on track to pay off all of the debts incurred with the fixes so far by April 2019 and still have a budget for future fixes/work.

Meanwhile, we can direct some of our funds towards the much-needed repairs and fixes on our property, which will make it safer and no longer be a pass-through free supply store for miscreants to easily access.

Bathtub epiphanies are quite productive!

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My New Life

Yes, my dad now lives in my front parlor. It was an underused section of our home, so it works out quite well!

I’ve been pretty quiet, but that is because I’m getting used to this new life – one in which I’m the primary caregiver to my dad. It takes up most of my days, between multiple home health visits, to doctor’s appointments, and occasionally I get to escape and go to [drum roll please] clean other people’s houses.

It is…challenging.

So much of what has happened in the past month has unfolded on Facebook, so while it may seem as if I’ve bene remarkably close-mouthed, it has been because I’ve already said it on Facebook, or directly in the new manuscript When God Laughs.

I have to treat this as an opportunity because in many ways it is one. I am tethered here to this house, but I’m also here, near my computer.

The Little Engine That Could is a lesson I learned early in life. One for which my dad is rather grateful he taught me!

Right now, I feel like a short order cook. I’m still on a learning curve as far as cooking for a diabetic diet, which is necessary to deal with my dad’s Type 2 diabetes and my own pre-diabetes. Today I met with a dietitian who helped me get some meal plans going.

I’ve juggled doctor’s visits, applications for Medicaid, and a ton of home health visits. I am also struggling with my own health issues which include plantar fasciitis in my right foot and a recurring spasm running up and down my back. And I’m not lucky enough to have health insurance.

Soon I hope to be back in the swing of things – creating art, gardening (counting the days until spring arrives!), cooking and more.

I’m a big believer in the saying, “When one door closes another one opens.” I also believe in rolling with the punches. Take the situation at hand and make the best of it. Staying here, in my new role as caretaker, allows me to focus on home, writing, and family. And when I look at it that way, a livable pattern emerges which gives me a plan of action.

More writing, more time for home, more cooking adventures, and more time for art and gardening. Watch out, world!

These two make my life really shine. Every day!

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I Just Call It Nesting

A lovely little spot to sit and relax in our bedroom suite. This is the room our bed used to be in.

A friend asked me the other day what I was doing for self-care. The answer is a little odd, but, in times of stress, I tend to nest.

I guess I wouldn’t consider it self-care, because I’m inevitably moving heavy furniture in and out of rooms, pushing, shoving, and generally creating a mess of belongings that need to be re-distributed throughout the rest of the house.

Since the eldest has moved out, well, even before, I had promised my dear husband a bigger room for his office. He is the main breadwinner, yet he has the smallest room (other than a bathroom) in the house for his office.

A view from the “inner room” to the new sitting room and the hallway beyond. And my sweet Bella, sitting pretty as you please.

I suggested we move his desk into the room vacated by Danielle and possibly put the treadmill in it as well…and maybe the dog cages too. And then the small old office could fit a double bed, nightstand and maybe a dresser. It would be cramped, which was kind of perfect. It gives off that “you are welcome to stay, but not for too long” kind of feel.

Instead, the old office is now a mess of two dog cages, a large aquarium, and a treadmill lodged in the middle. So much for that guest room…

Meanwhile, while we were moving furniture around, I had a vision for how I wanted our double bedroom to look. Our room consists of two 12×12 bedrooms with a wide opening between them. And for the last couple of years, the king-size bed has been in the “outer room” which is closest to the hallway. The bed filled the room, giving it a cramped feeling, and the dog kennels and treadmill in the “inner room” made it a hodge podge of underused space.

So we switched things around, putting the king bed into the “inner room” and turning the “outer room” into a place for my dressers and a sitting area, complete with the marble-topped table that was displaced by my dad moving into our front parlor.

I spent the day on Sunday moving things about.

Now that I have a proper sitting room, I think I need to get to work on putting something on those blank walls. What do you think?

The marble topped table that was in my front parlor before my dad moved in. The wooden sculpture was created by my maternal uncle and The Little Engine That Could was a mantra of my parents whenever I cried and said I couldn’t do anything. It kind of symbolizes how I live my life – never give up!

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Sometimes It Takes a Village

Dad looking spiffy now that he is clean-shaven and had a bath.

Well, folks, I’m back home in the States, albeit $4,000 and eleven pounds lighter.

My dad’s finances were drained by the three different hospital stays and medical expenses. I spent money I didn’t have getting there, staying there, and coming back.

All in all, it’s been a lot of stress, with plenty of challenging moments.

We flew back on New Year’s Day and that was an exhausting experience all on its own. We spent a day recuperating (sort of) and friends came over and were kind enough to give Dad the bath he had been looking forward to so much.

The front parlor has room for two chairs, a twin bed and a desk. He has everything he needs. I even found curtains for the transition into the living room.

Yesterday, however, was spent waiting in a clinic, then going to the ER at Truman Medical Center, and ending with an admission to the hospital. They are concerned about his weight loss, anemia, and possible internal bleeding.

I’ve managed two nights’ of halfway decent sleep – the first in over two weeks. And I will be leaving soon to visit my Dad in the hospital.

I am an incredibly independent and resourceful creature. I scrimp and save, and do whatever I can to make those dollars work for me. But this? This has really pushed us to the wall. My dad doesn’t get much in Social Security and we are also facing penalties for him not signing up for Medicare Part B at age 65. (He was in Panama and thought he would stay there forever, so it made sense at the time) Also, he won’t be eligible for Part B for six months, so any non-hospital fees are completely on him (and consequently us).

The pocket doors in the front entry open and allow easy access to the front door or the bathroom.

I need help.

He needs help.

If you have any to spare, even ten dollars, it would help. In a few weeks, I’ve got a credit card bill due that is rather…intimidating. And I can use all the help I can get.

Here is the link. I hope you will be able to help and also to share it with your friends and family. It would really make my day.

GoFund Me for Dad’s medical expenses

Meanwhile, I’ve been nesting and doing my best to create a safe, comfortable and welcoming room for him in our house. We took these photos yesterday…

He might be in the hospital now, but today or tomorrow I hope to bring him back home where he belongs.

He told my husband that while he was in the Panamanian hospital, he saw patients surrounded by family. He said that he realized then that he might die, alone, without anyone who loved him. He told Dave, “Thank you for opening your home to me.”

My dad and I have had our differences, and I have no illusions that it will be smooth sailing from here on out. But I know this – his presence in my home is a welcome one. For as long as he has, I hope that he knows he has a place here in our lives.

That is what I want for my family.

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And…I’m in Panama

Sunrise – shot from the first flight from Kansas City to Houston

For those of you who aren’t connected with me on Facebook…SURPRISE! I’m in Panama City, Panama!

Leaving Houston on the way to Miami

That sounds much more upbeat than what it has actually been. See, this hasn’t exactly been a touristy fun kind of visit.

I didn’t get to see the Panama canals, but I did see plenty of container ships leaving and heading for the open sea.

My dad has lived in Panama for about 15 years now. He’s an American citizen, born here in Missouri, but he has always loved traveling.

A shot from the taxi window – Panama City, Panama

As he has aged, and reported falling and various other medical issues – like diabetes and the vision issues that often accompanies diabetes – I have worried. But my dad is rather obstinate (that is a significant understatement, by the way). He has lived his life on his terms.

Camilo, the taxi driver who is a friend of the owner of the house I’m staying it. Camilo keeps trying to teach me Spanish. And I’m a willing but incompetent student. “Oh Christina, tu Espanol es pequito mal!” Yes it is, Camilo, yes it is.

Last Monday, December 19th, was to be a “writing day.” The kiddo was off at a friend’s for a playdate, my husband was working, and I, I was going to hit my current manuscript full force.

By 12:30 I had over 1,200 words written and I took a break to eat a bit of lunch. At 12:45, just as I had resumed writing, the phone rang. I looked at the number, didn’t recognize it, and considered not answering.

This is Timothy, my dad’s childhood bear. Timothy travels everywhere with Dad. He has never left him behind.

Too many years in call centers and in offices precluded that. And I’m glad I did, because the person on the other end was a friend of my dad’s calling to let me know he was very ill and currently in a Panamanian hospital.

My dad in Hospitale Santa Fe in Panama City, Panama.

Less than 48 hours later I was on a plane flying out of the country for the first time, terrified of the situation I would find, and completely lost in a foreign country. Did I also mention that my knowledge of the Spanish language is pretty much nonexistent?!

A street near the house where I am staying

There have been many ups and downs since as I struggled to orient myself in Panama City, deal with bureaucracy and medical issues, and even the task of finding food and transport and lodging.

It has been a terrifying, stressful, and sometimes exhilarating ride – and it isn’t done yet.

View of the Panama City skyline from my dad’s doctor’s office

I’ve had to deal with issues like – expired visas, learning how to care for my father, arrange for tickets, and monitor his medical issues with as much dignity and respect as I can.

My father is practically a skeleton, has aged decades in just one short year, and is suffering from out of control diabetes, severe malnutrition, a head wound, memory issues, prostate issues, bowel issues and is very frail.

A view of the Panama City skyline from my dad’s doctor’s office

Our plane tickets were purchased for the earliest possible departure date, Sunday, and I have just one piece of paper left to procure for Immigration. I have managed to secure the help of one of his friends here, Nanci, who speaks very good English, and my new friend Camilo, a taxi driver to make sure we make it to the airport on time.

There have been so many dragons to defeat and mountains to climb in the past eight days since my boots hit the ground here. I can’t do it justice in just one post. Suffice it to say, my life, as well as the lives of my children, husband and dad are going to change significantly in the coming weeks and months as we learn to incorporate my obstinate and willful father into our family dynamic. I will be learning what it is to be a caretaker too. Our lives are changing in a massive way.

I’m also going to write a book on this whole experience. I’m titling it, “When God Laughs.”

That fateful Monday, I had declared the day to be a “writing day.” And you may have heard the saying, “Want to make God laugh? Tell him your plans.”

This artwork that I was working on the day before THE CALL hits too close to home with the idea of travel and roads.

More later, when I’m back stateside.

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Since I Can’t Afford Custom Clothing

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For years I’ve dreamed of being able to afford custom, handcrafted clothing. And despite my many and varied skills, sewing is NOT in my wheelhouse.

A hem or two, but that’s it.

Eventually I'll add some vines and more flowers to this.

Eventually I’ll add some vines and more flowers to this.

So I have pined for the artsy fartsy look.

It kind of goes hand in hand with the whole writer/artist vibe, don’t you think?

And that’s when it hit me. If I can’t afford to buy custom-made clothing, why not take some of my favorite outfits and make them more special?

And as always, necessity is the mother of invention. I happen to love comfortable, easy living clothing and when my favorite pieces succumb to stubborn stains, I’m bummed.

The other day I noticed that my favorite slouchy green sweater had not one, but TWO holes in it.

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And this came at a particularly opportune moment. I had just made up a potential class list and had one class on the list that I needed to [ahem] master before teaching it! I cut the pieces from a wool sweater – 7 itty bitty petals, 10 medium petals and 16 larger petals. A few minutes and one stick of hot glue later, and Ta-Da!

The other day I was distressed to find that my absolute favorite asymmetric shirt was riddled with stains. So I began to draw. It will need a fair sight more before it is done, but I think it is looking GREAT!

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And all of this led me to thinking about an Etsy store. I bought a few name brand shirts at Savers, my favorite used clothing store, during one of their 50% off sales. So I paid around $3-$6 per shirt. I will decorate them and then post them for sale on the Etsy store. Here’s crossing my fingers and hoping this works. I could use a few extra dollars in the kitty!

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It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like…

“It’s beginning to look a lot like FISHMEN. Everywhere I go!” Cue the H.P. Lovecraft Society’s A Very Scary Solstice and I am now firmly in a festive mood.

One of the pleasures of owning this big, beautiful, drafty old house is our annual Christmas decorating adventures. It takes at least two full days – one to clean the house, and the other to install the tree and decorate it.

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And that’s just the downstairs.

Need a photo with Santa? We've got you covered!

Need a photo with Santa? We’ve got you covered!

At some point, I hope to set up additional trees and decorations upstairs in various rooms.

The dining room mantel always gets the Christmas village

The dining room mantel always gets the Christmas village

For instance, I would like to find a 4-5′ tall artificial tree for the library/office which I will decorate in a books/writing theme.

The countdown to Christmas (pic taken a few days ago)

The countdown to Christmas (pic taken a few days ago)

I think it would be fun to add a tiny tree to the main floor bathroom which held miniatures such as bars of soap, tiny Christmas towels, and other bathroom themed decor.

A mix of the old and new. A snowflake montage in the background I made a couple of years ago, with old wooden cherries hung on a velvet tree. I don't remember a Christmas without those cherries.

A mix of the old and new. A snowflake montage in the background I made a couple of years ago, with old wooden cherries hung on a velvet tree. I don’t remember a Christmas without those cherries.

And then there is the kitchen. A tiny tree with little whisks and graters and such in the window.

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Or the art room – paintbrushes, tiny art pieces, and more.

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The utility room…

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By the time I’m done figuring out all the rooms – Christmas decorating will take a full WEEK to complete!

A big thanks to Dorri, a friend and neighbor who brought me this music box and collecitble Santa last year.

A big thanks to Dorri, a friend and neighbor who brought me this music box and collecitble Santa last year.

And don’t get me started on the Haunted Graveyard I’ve been dreaming of doing each Halloween for YEARS now.

A special ten-year-old little someone hung these stockings for her big sister and for her sister's dog, Ludo.

A special ten-year-old little someone hung these stockings for her big sister and for her sister’s dog, Ludo.

Let’s face it, holiday decorating is a lot of work, but it is fun too. Especially when we pull out the “festive” holiday tunes. It’s hard to get grumpy over all those strings of Christmas lights you have to test when you get to hear the dulcet tones of A Very Scary Solstice belting out “And on his hands he has orifices and he doesn’t have a head!” to the tune of I Want to Wish You a Merry Christmas.

You gorgeous beast, you!

You gorgeous beast, you!

And now I’m sad that I didn’t schedule us to have a holiday party!

A new addition

A new addition

Next year, folks. Mark your calendars for the second weekend of December of next year. I guarantee we will have a fabulous party then!

The front parlor mantel

The front parlor mantel

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And Then Again…

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I’ve had ups and downs in my teaching business. And with a few “downs” in a row, I had decided to stop offering classes.

Sometimes all it takes is a cleaning to give me perspective.

As you may remember, I run a cleaning biz. For a select few, I scrub toilets, wipe down countertops, and barrel through stranger’s houses with a vacuum and microfiber in hand.

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And as I scrubbed a particularly nasty toilet today, I thought, “Do I really want to add MORE cleaning clients to my schedule? Do I really want to, you know, scrub more toilets?”

And the answer was, predictably, “No, I really don’t.”

I make better money teaching classes.

“But it is more stress.” I tried to reason with myself. “I’m constantly having to reinvent new classes.”

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For now, I’m simply thinking of doing one class a month. Hopefully, that won’t be too bad. Although, if I can woo one of my big hosts back into the fold, then I will have 20+ locations that would be interested in hosting my classes. That’s a lot of repeat customers. So we will see. It could work out.

Life is flux.

What would YOU like to see me teach a class on?

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Hey, Let’s Build a Fence!

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I have dreamed of enclosing this property with a nice tall privacy fence ever since I moved here.

Having the last lot that wasn’t ours be used as a thoroughfare for folks taking a shortcut from one block to the other didn’t help.

Something like this...

Something like this…

Nor did the guy who preferred to stop in the middle of said lot and pee…in broad daylight.

Or the guy who my husband caught doing something a little more…stinky…in the pre-dawn hours.

Or possibly this...

Or possibly this…

And then there was the guy who walked his dogs straight through the middle of my property TWICE in one day. Both times the dogs were lunging and snapping at our chickens as they bulldozed through the yard. And yes, the second time earned him a rather loud and irate, “EXCUSE me, but could you please STOP walking your dogs through our yard?” from me.

And with our increased and contiguous property comes the ability to have our friends Jay and Michelle boondock their RV here. Staying here they will be close to The Cottage, and centrally located for more work opportunities in the area.

We aren’t going to enclose everything. Not yet. But we have come up with a strategy for putting in an inexpensive fence on the entire back border of the property. It will be a slight ‘L’ shape since we will need to connect into our dog fence on one side and then run it the entire south border length, connecting finally to our neighbor Dale’s fence on the west corner.

This should make him happy. He was complaining a couple of years ago about the folks walking through the properties and having the back sealed off will stop that once they realize there is no longer access off of the alleyway. I think he will feel safer too.

We are doing our best to get along with him. And with Jay here (I call her our Dale-whisperer), I have little doubt that we can swing him back over to the “good neighbor” side of looking at things.

It will be a simple fence. However, we can paint the boards in the spring. And then I plan on planting vining plants along the length of it – climbing roses, clematis, honeysuckle, morning glories, wisteria, trumpet vine, hardy kiwi, and more in areas where there won’t be any gates.

I think that a total of three gates – two sixteen feet wide and one four foot wide – will work perfectly. You can see them marked with thick black lines on the schematic along with the approximate placement of the RV, which will be nestled in the back of the property for optimum privacy. The green line is the fence (although it will be five feet in from the edge of the alley per code).

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We are planning on installing the fence the second weekend in December. What do you think?!

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